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Post by ~*Renee*~ on Apr 29, 2006 21:08:16 GMT -5
Well I will first off by saying congrats to both advice givers! I know you will do well!
My situatuion is one of a personal acceptance thing. I'm a 'big' girl and well everyone lets me know it, specially my mother. My mother has never helped me through life she has just made it worse. When I was eleven she told me that one day I would have to be lifted out of the house by a crane, which crushed me and I still tear up everytime I think about the evil statement! I hate going to school or in public places because I'm big and in my thoughts ugly. I just can't seem to accept myself as a person. Do you two have any thoughts on my situation? If not then I understand.
~*Renee*~
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Post by faithsangel on Apr 30, 2006 5:56:46 GMT -5
Hey Renee,
Have you tried speaking to your mother about how she has made you feel??
If you feel uncomfortable in yourself and see yourself as a 'big girl' have you tried taking any steps to change this? For example eating healthier, exercising more etc? One thing I am not advising is going on crash diets or over-exercising as these are bad for your health.
If you want to take steps to make yourself feel better, maybe you could talk to a doctor and explain how you feel. A good doctor will be able to advise you on whether you need to lose weight or not and also on a safe and healthy way to do it. You may even find that you don't actually need to lose weight, a lot of people who feel they are big are actually average.
One thing you must remember, is its not the outside that makes you beautiful, its the inside. Look in the mirror everyday and pick something out that you really like, whether its a physical feature or a physcological feature and say that its beautiful! Learn to love yourself for your positive parts and focus less on the negative parts, and that will help you feel much better and help you love yourself, it can be amazng what a difference that can make.
Gem x
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Post by ~*Renee*~ on Apr 30, 2006 10:05:25 GMT -5
I have talked to my mother, but she deines it all. She doesn't really want to look like a bad mother in front of others even though no one is present.
Well I have actually gone on to do weight watchers and it has helped. I have lost 20 pounds over the course of six months. I will definately try the mirror thing, thanks for your help! ;D
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Post by PiperHalliwellP3 on Apr 30, 2006 11:17:51 GMT -5
Hey,
I will give you my point of view now.
It may be hard to even consider, but I'm thinking your mom is putting you down because she is unhappy with herself. There is something bothering her and she is using you as her outlet. And I'm sorry for that...That really is horrible. You should talk to her about it. Get everything out in the open. And don't be embarresed to go out in public. Be who you are. Don't be ashamed. Like faithsangel said, it doesn't count or matter whats on the outside. Everyone is beautiful...inside and out. But also remember, not one girl feels 100% confident about herself. Whether she shows it or not...She may seem the happiest and most confident person on the outside, but there is something she would probably change about herself. That's how women are. I'm the same way. But, don't dwell on what you think isn't beautiful. And I totally agree with Gem, learn to love yourself by doing the mirror thing, and you will feel a lot better about yourself. Hope I helped!
Kate <3
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