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Dec 19, 2006 21:54:01 GMT -5
Post by prudence on Dec 19, 2006 21:54:01 GMT -5
Well I'm gay and I've told me mother but I haven't gotten around to telling my father. How do I break the news to him that I'm gay and how do I not hurt him. He knowns my ex-boyfriend and there like friendly with him and his family. But being the almost prefect son to him in so many ways how can I tell him that I'm not, I'm actually gay. Help me someone... anyone?
~Prue~
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Mar 18, 2007 20:27:11 GMT -5
Post by phoebecole4ever on Mar 18, 2007 20:27:11 GMT -5
Just tell him. Say "Dad, I need to talk to you about something, and you have to promise to not get upset or interupt." Most likely he already knows on some level. Then explain to him the entire situation, including why you didn't say anything before, and at the end say "And I know that you still love me, because you are such a good father." That would probably make him think before getting upset, if he even was going to get upset. Hopes it helps
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Mar 23, 2007 5:30:08 GMT -5
Post by Paige Heather on Mar 23, 2007 5:30:08 GMT -5
Dear prudance, I know it is really hard to tell some one you bcare about something that will hurt them,but you really have to tell you father.Because it is a really big news to him and he got every rights to know that. Well,the best way to approch to him is to find a peaceful place first,so that he will be calm.Them,you can open up directly.If you scare of the consequences if you being too direct,you can bring up something similar to him,like begin with:"Dad,I got a friends,and he is gay..."Something like this and you can see his reactions after that.You can slowly bring out the truth thorough the talk. Be sure you let him know that you still love him and that you are sorry to be imperfect.And you can ask for his forgiveness. Well,hope I can help you.You can try phoebecole4ever's advice as well,it is also a good way. Best wishes.
love, Paige
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Mar 23, 2007 13:24:24 GMT -5
Post by prudence on Mar 23, 2007 13:24:24 GMT -5
Tried it and it didn't work out so good... My father doesn't want me anywhere near him anymore and well my friend, he not talking to him anymore. Now that he's connected the dots between me and my friend. He just wasn't listening in the end, it's like he already made up his mind before I even told him... So I guess I'm pretty much stuck here alone for the moment. But telling him has it's advantages. I mean me and my friend, can you know play around now. Without having to try to keep it down, so he doesn't hear what we are doing anymore. But we are trying to be careful and I'm kinda sad that it didn't kill the guy. Because he's always been so mean to me growing up, I really thought the idea of his first son being gay might actually kill him. Funny, huh!
~Prudence~
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Mar 24, 2007 22:11:59 GMT -5
Post by Paige Heather on Mar 24, 2007 22:11:59 GMT -5
dear Prudance, It is bad of thinking of the massage you brought to your dad will kill him,he is your father no matter how hard he has been on you.It is all out of his care,you know?We all have some problem with our parents,but deep down inside us,we still love them. The way your dad acting like now is understandable,how many father can accept their child is gay?They expect thie son/daughter is a normal person,who like the opposite sex,who can give them a grandson/grandaughter.You have to give him sometime to calm himself down.And sometime later,he will fully accept you. Try to be good to your dad from now on,he is having a very sad and hard time now.Try not to make him angry or upset him anymore. Hope to hear some good news from you soon!Take care.
Love, Paige
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