Confusing Love

[phoebe]

Hi,
I'm Phoebe from Red Elf's site and yes I need some help. I met this guy last fall and we started going out Easter. He lives in Texas and we put our relationship on hold until he comes to see me, but he still refers to me as his girlfriend. Friday was my prom and I met this other guy Travis and my prom date, Mike. I started feeling nervous like I usually do when I'm around a guy that i may like. My prom date hardly danced with me but I like him just b/c he's a really great friend and all. But Travis was out-going, fun, cute, and I got along with him great. When I got home and talked to my potential bf, I felt as if I'd cheated for a little while but then I didn't feel that way. I really like Travis but I also like my "bf".. I want someone's opinion should i feel lke I've done something wrong or not?? What should I do?

Phoebe

[Billie girl]

I really don't think you should feel you've done anything wrong. Especially when your young and have a whole future ahead of you. Now if you were married to the guy....i'd be looking for some consuling but you not! Boyfriends come and go, but in the end all that matters is what makes you happy. Because when on guy goes, your left alone and if you were just with them to be loyal then you'll be left empty.

If your bf is someone who is really close (spiritually or personally) to you, as in you always feel whole when your with him, and you feel like you can confide in him no doubt, and you have lots of fun, and he makes you happy, you know everything you'd ever want in a guy....then go with him and consider Travis a possiblity for later in case it doesn't work out. Now i say that uneasily. I think its wrong to have fall back guys as if you know they're going to be there for you. So when you make your decision, compare them, the good and bad, and what works for you.
For me, I'd probably want to keep close ties to my long distance relationship, and go for a guy who is closer to me, you have to be fair to them, but sometimes you got to be fair to yourself too.

I don't know if i helped you any....but i did what I could. This is what makes since to me. So if its doesn't sound right.....I'd totally go look for other oppinions....especially from peopl who know you I'm sure someone can help.

[phoebe]

Thank you very much...I'll take your advice as well as pay a little more attention to how i feel with my bf..thanks!

[paige]

i think you have not cheated one bit because you didnt do anything but dance alittle and maybe flirt and i think that if your boyfriend from texas only comes and visites half the time you should date the travis guy and dont beat your self up over it... it could be worse like your moms boyfriend tells you that you have to break up with your first love and true love or hell call the police and tell them that he has been giving you drugs and which is not true and then move away.. that happened to me and well trust your heart and your destiny will fall into place sooner thatn you think believe me and i wanna hear what happens so please contact me at my yahoo if you ever wanna talk or need advice... my yahoo is lilylolalover... paige