*Confused and Not sure What to do*

[piperhalliwell26]

I'm so confused right now. I have a crush on my one
friend and he knows it. We decide to remain friends
and get to know each other better. I call and text
him. But he never texts back. And when I call he
either doesn't answer so I leave him a voicemail telling him to call me when he can when he never does.
Or if he does pick up his cellphone he doesn't talk which means I have to do all the talking or he says he'll call me later. Later
comes and he dosen't call.
When he doesn't call is it becasue he acually forgot? Or he just wanted to get off the phone with me?
The only time he will answer is when I tell him that
I need to talk to him about something and ask if I can
call. Half the time I feel like I'm the only one who
wants this friendship. I'm the one who has to hold
this friendship together. That he doesn't care. But he
has said an I quote "ur a good friend to me i hope i
am to u" And he is a good friend to me. I have a note
for him but I haven't given it to him yet. It's
bascily talking about how I feel about the friendship
we have and how I feel like I'm the only one who wants
this friendship.
Should I give him the note and/or talk this out with
him? And I was thinking about telling him he has until
a certain amount of time like {EX: He has until End up
Augst} to decide if he wants this friendship or not. Should I tell him he has a certain amount of time?Bc
I'm tired of playing this so called "Game".
What should I do? and How do I go about telling him that I need to talk to him and not loose him for good if I decide to tell him? Thats my biggest fear right now losing him .

*Amy*

[charmedxxjulian]

hey Amy

i think he is from the time you told him you have a crush on him confused too and don't know either what to do

he saw you as a friend but now that he knows you have a crush on him maybe his look at you is totally diffirent

i think you should give him that letter and don't say you have untill end of august because he will probably feel loaded//that he have to hurry
and you must give him some time to think this all over

i hope i help you with my advice

Xx

[piperhalliwell26]

Thanks for the adivce. Your right I shouldn't give him a certain time . I want to give him the letter but I'm scared to. I'm scared I'm gonna lose him if I give it to him Time and again he always is reasuring me that our "friendship" is fine and that I need not to worry. But I can't help it. He has know for a while that I havea crush on him, and he's fine with it. He is such a great friend that I don't want to lose him bcecasue I opened my mouth when it didn't to be.
*Amy*

[xScenexQueenx]

Dear Piperhalliwell26,

Don't give him a letter you need to talk it out with him face to face
That is more upfront and easier to believe it may be harder to do
but it is the best way to get the best response and for the first question
He probably just wanted to get off of the phobe with you most guys are like that don't let it get in the way though!

And like CharmedxxJulian said give him plenty of time to
decide what he should because if you cut him off with a
certain time he may blow you off and even though it is
a game he still needs time to think about it!

And just do what i said with the advice above it should work you can also wait for Paige Heather to Post also see what she says and i'm sure her advice is wonderful to just remember
be good and safe and make sure you take your time and let him take his and everythign will turn out great!

Peace,
love,
and joy,

Phoebe Halliwell

[Lindz]

You need to talk it through with him face to face so you can sort it through.
I've been through the exact same experience but it was the other way around. My mate Alastair admitted to having feelings for me and he was like a brother to me. I didn't really treat him differently but it did take time to think that one of my best mates has a crush on me. It feels strange. I think you should just let it cool off a bit and let him think about it all. Maybe it might think the same way! Or maybe he thinks its strange too.
Just give him time, he'll come around at some point.

[piperhalliwell26]

Well I have some Great news... I've been talking to him more in the past 2-3 weeks then I had all summer. He is acually calling me. We don't really talk about much but hey it's a start right. I'm not sure if I should still tell him how I feel, since he is now calling me and talking and plus he told me something really big and he trust me not to tell. I don't know if it was ajoke bc he text me and told or if its true. And do you think I should still tell him how I feel just so he knows? Bc I'm thinking things might work out better if we didn't hide anything from each other anylonger. What do you think I should do?
*Amy*

[Prue]

i wouldn't pounce staright in a would let him know slowly like ask if you were more than just friends the esculate form there i would think.

[xScenexQueenx]

I think may be like Prue said go slowly start out easy don't just tell him i have feelings start out slow and tell him and remember what ever happens happened for a reason so don't feel bad if something goes wrong lol nothing will though!

[Prue]

I always feel when things are rushed they never work out.

[piperhalliwell26]

Well I haven't told him how I felt about our friendship and definitely not about how I still like him. I thought our frindship was going well but I'm not so sure anymore. Yeah I understand that when he doesn't call he forgets or is busy but it hurts when I wait for him to call bc he promised me he'd call. I don't even know if my "friendship" with him is worth anything anymore.i don't know if i should contuie to care about him anymore..no matter what he says or does I always forgive him and put it behind me,and pretend everything is fine that our friendship is fine. I dont think I can keep pretending when this is really bothering me.
What do I do? I'm scared that if I say something to him I'm going to lose him for good.
*Amy*

[Prue]

Well i tihnk you need to say something and see if he fels the same because if you like him and he doesn't like you well things can get complicated.

[piperhalliwell26]

Anyone have any ideas or sugeggtions on how I tell him how I feel when he does or says the things? Bc when I talked to him the other day it kinda hurt to know that he sided with my ex bf when i told him that he pulled me back from giving the little girl my ex and i were watching her bottle. He then said he shouldn't of done that. Is it wise to call him all mad and angry adn talk to him that way? Bc when I'm mad I don't think,but when I'm calm I tend to think about what he's gonna say. So any ideas on how to talk to him bc I think I'm going to.